the healing box

Written by sherry. Posted in gifts, self study, your life segments

Published on May 27, 2011 with No Comments

The Healing Box

When thinking of a gift for a family member or a close friend, I always try to customize it to their personal likes and/or hobbies. But there is one gift I’ve given that takes it up a notch. I call this gift ‘The Healing Box.’

During our lives we are always challenged with every day stresses. It can be our children or spouse being difficult, the dog or cat are messing around, or we can find ourselves a little short on the coin 4 days away from pay day! As friends we try to support each other during these times by commiserating and listening. Then there are those times I call ‘Life Changing. Times’ like their or a loved one being diagnosed with cancer, any other dire diagnosis of some sort or, sadly, the death of a spouse or child. These occurrences can shift the planes of the Earth and Life, as we know it, and change our lives forever. When I see my friends faced with this, I’ve felt helpless and have wondered, ‘What I can I do to assist them and what can I say that will be good and not awkward or damaging?’ Then there are those times when I have felt so lost in what to do, I end up doing nothing and have later had regrets, a Lose-Lose situation.

A few years ago, I had a friend diagnosed with third-stage breast cancer. She was a single mom of a terrific 9-year-old son and was, frankly, devastated. We, her friends, gathered together as a support group and helped her find a doctor, helped her decide on what treatment to choose and kept her house clean and bodies fed. After doing all that, I still felt like I could more. We were taking care of all her physical needs but what could we do for her Spirit and Emotional needs? I came up with the idea of a Healing Box.

I found a pretty, wooden box at CostPlus World Market, about the size of a shoebox, and filled it with items I thought would help in her journey through and beyond her cancer. I gave each item lots of thought, keeping her beliefs and ideas in mind. In a card, I listed each item and wrote what compelled me to include it in her box. I will list the items I included and the narrative for each. You can use any kind of box since it doesn’t have to be one from World Market. I have used pretty boxes received as gifts, a hat box, a shoebox decorated with pictures and scrapbook items and I have even used a box made for storing pictures. The purpose of the container is to have the items you collected in something that can be stored on a shelf or under the bed for easy access, so it doesn’t really matter what it is.

Here is how I explain the box and its contents to the friend I am giving it to:

Dear Friend:

I am giving you what I call a Healing Box. This is what I felt I needed to do to help you through your trying time since I have been feeling helpless in how to fix all that is going on with you and knowing I can’t. I envision this box being used during your meditative times or quiet times in the morning.

It is wrapped in a pretty shawl whose colors remind me of you. Please place this around your body and imagine me and the Universe embracing you in our loving arms and wishing you only warmth and comfort.

The candle is to shine it’s golden, healing light over you while you are in your quiet moments.

The mirror is there to show not only your image but to help you reflect on what was, what is and what will be. It will also show you the woman I see: Strong, intuitive, beautiful, fearless and, yes, a little crazy! These are the characteristics I imagine will help you through this journey.

The picture frame is to hold the image of your most beloved. This is to remind you why you are going through this with the courage I know is inside you.

The CD is one I cherish and play while in my own time of meditation and want to share it with you. My wish is that it gives you the same comfort I receive.

The amethyst crystal is to give you protection, increase your intuitiveness and to help you remember your dreams.

The citrine is to help heal you, Body and Soul, and to give you personal power.

All of this is given with the wish that whatever the future has in store for you, it will include all the love and friendship you deserve. Please know that I always have you in my heart thoughts and I am only a phone call away.

much love,


Keep in mind the items can be any you think would be helpful during the friend’s challenging time.  I am also very careful in who I give this to and why. I usually reserve it for those who have something going on that is definitely more than the every day craziness we all experience. Sometimes I have taken just one of the items I usually put in the ‘Healing Box’ and given it to someone who only needs a little boost. The shawl by itself is nice because you can say, ‘I thought you needed a hug so put this on and think of me doing that for you!’ A crystal that represents a particular healing power is another nice gift by itself. I have also not limited doing this with only friends and family. Sometimes it will be an acquaintance I have heard about. Having done this, I have come to know them better and have made a new, close friend.

The first time I came up with this, an interesting thing has happened. When I gave the Healing Box,  it seemed a little healing occurred within myself. I felt so good giving something to somebody that tells her outright she is important to me and that I wish her well. The friend’s appreciation is reward enough, but the feeling of satisfaction for a job well done is a bonus.

Here is a list of crystals and stones along with their healing properties. I have tried to customize the crystal or stone to my friends’ needs.

Amethyst        protection, increase intuition, helps to remember dreams
Aquamarine   stone of joy and happiness. Protective stone of the traveler
Bloodstone     takes away the negativity and sadness
Carnelian       female stone, heals and balances the reproductive system
Citrine            healer and balancer of personal power
Lapis               helps to change negativity into positively
Moon Stone  increases intuition
Obsidian        grounds and centers
Onyx               connector with the cycle of life, protective
Opal                opens communication
Peridot           helps to heal and balance
(black)     protective, deflects negativity from the wearer
(green)     helps with emotional change, bringing balance
(rubellite) cleanses and helps deal with sexual energies
(watermelon)  aids transitions
Turquoise       heals, connects self to higher self

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